Sometimes, life is indeed very dissapointing. You wanna know why? It is because we expect too much from it. We forget the reality of life. We expect things to be our own way. We expect people to do what we hope they do. We expect people who we love, loves us back. We expect applications we applied gives us positive reply. We expect games we play give us victory.
It is not an unusual thing to do that. Most people do that. Almost everyone does that. But that is what we need to bare in our mind, the majority is not always right. Ever wonder why depression rate increases from time to time? One of the reason is because people don't care about destiny anymore.
Just around last month, i decide to make a survey and observation. About how people view life. Probably this can be called judging, guess it is what it is.judging it is, i decided to do it by my self. I talked to some people that i know and i don't know. We talked about life.
Since, i realize that life is more that just what i could see, i tried to get the essence of how it is to be in anyone else's shoe..
The methodology that i used to make this happen may vary. I ask, survey, role play, ear drop, watch movies, watch documentaries, read articles, read blogs, read post on fb and Instagram and more. Interestingly enough, i spend time and a lot of time doing this and apparently, i my self became the respondent.
This is what i could learn:
As a human, most people know we will die. But not people aware that life is temporary. Interesting huh? Most people give too much attention on how to build life but forget to live a life. They concern too much about studies, career, projects, money and appearance. But they forget that all those things will go away or perhaps, never come. I see most religious people are old. After they get what they want as in career and family, then they ask themselves of what else? What else that they need to achieve. More, most old people would have their dreams or advise of how would the live their lives differently is they were given to turn back time. They will have a very long list of what they would change.
But you know what, most young people had encounter some one who with wisdom and had listen to those kind of advice, but then, very few people take that to change the way they live. They treat those words as if they don't trust em.
That is that, let's touch about something else. You know why so many people almost give up with life? As said earlier, it is about destiny. People thought the life that they live in had no author. They control their own lives and get very upset when things goes not the way they wanted. They do not want to accept failure. they don't want to get want don't want or even get want they don't want.
You might not see what is so problematic with that but trust me, i would say it is a very big one. Let's talk examples. Example? Like me got very sick and unhealthy one week, if i accept that and acknowledge that i am in fact sick and i need some rest, accept that as test from God and ask God to get me cure, it would have less suffer. Instead, i can't stop thinking of what did i do that causes such pain and since i could find the answer, i got very stressed out and feel clueless of what to do.i don't know what causes it and therefore, i can't find the cure. I started to see life as unfair. I ask why me? It was so painful that i almost give up.
But Alhamdulillah, it goes more than once. The pain comes again and again. I was so frustrated at first but then i feel very thankful. It made me think. It made me cry and ask Allah for help. Because as a human, though I pray everyday, sometimes it is hard to feel in need and humble in front of God. I feel like God wants me to be close to him again. At that time, i know exactly the answer to my question. Why me? Because God miss and love me, hopefully. Not so many people get the chance to shed tear in front of God. About what did i do wrong, perhaps there is no answer. Perhaps, though i took care of health properly, Allah wants to remind me, taking care of the body is not a guarantee that i will not get sick. It is the right of the body that i need to fulfill. I will get reward for every effort. Do not compare it with anyone else. I got sick probably because my own fault but certainly because it is a test from Allah to me. If I bare patient, i will get the reward, if i whine, perhaps, i just let go a golden opportunity to be closer to Allah.
That is just a simple life example. Moving on, more things that i learn is that, most people are just not ready to let themselves to be ruled by God. They get very disappointed if they don't get what they want. They get mad at people, at themselves, at everyone, everything and even God. They just don't understand why things happen and assume that just because they don't understand how life works, perhaps life is evil. They thought their existence is a mistake. They don't want to appreciate life anymore. Life is just so hard and beyond comprehension. They forget that they are normal human being and understanding everything is impossible. It is actually okay to not understand things yet. But have faith, everything happen for reasons.
We forget to give excuse to people. Just because they don't meet our expectation, we perceive them as loser. Sometimes, we donn't even know those people but we put so many stories on them. We label people. We don't care to listen or ask why they did that. Most of the time, what we thought will be proven wrong! Be Careful with your suspicions.
More, we forgot that life is not just about us. Most people just like to live in their own bubble. They only go out to seek help. When they need something,they go out amd try to get someone to do some favor for them. You know what is the problem with this? Those people care only about themselves. They thought as long as they don't cause problem to the world, that is good enough. They thought the world is crazy because many crazy people ruled the world. A lot of corruptions in this world that the condemn very badly. The thing is, they don't want to go out solve the problem themselves. They though everyone else is crazy but them, yet they just let it happen. They stay alone in their room and watch drama and anime. That would solve problem they though. But when the time they spend sometime out, they get very easily frustrated, they will start to condemn things and what ever.
Another problem with that kind of people is they live in their own life that their personal problem will be regarded as the biggest world problem. They forgot about more people who have the same problem and some have worse. Died because no food, suffer in war, disabilities, condemned for living, and a lot more. They are not aware with this kind of problems, unfortunately. The only thing that they care is the hero died in the movie that is not even real, or the case is not solved in csi. They care too much about unreal stuff that they don't care to participate to make peace the real way.
Last but not least, most people get very weak in life because the don't have the support system. The expect their parents, family, friends to give some kind of support and motivation, but yet, None of them contributes anything, because everyone else is living in the bubble as well. They don't care about what your life is like and don'nt understand why they need to know.it is ver y sad to not have one knid of support system when we arevery weak but one thing that most people forget, we have God, and he is indeed very near and he listen and able to help you.
Last lastly, be grateful. Focus not just on your problems, count your blessings as well. Be frank to your self! Yes you do have problem, but it is not it, you have many other things given to you as gifts. Most of them you don't even ask for, yet you have it. Those things made you smile. Be thankful, be grateful. Smile, while you still have teeth :)
Remember, problem won't last, just like life.
