we ll lose everything anyway.. just get ready.

done with group project!

sounds happy,..but always something we need to sacrifice with.. who does not happy when what we worked for days and nights finnally completed?

but one thing bother me.. i love my group members so much.. i had great times with them.. even that was the longest and most complicated project ever, i am always ready when was told to have a meeting.. just because i am happy to meet them. noor and Sally. yup.. i am mentioning their names here. because they are very great people i know here.. i mean, they are so kind that i cant stop myself from putting their names in my prayers.. May Allah bless Noor and give the guidance to Sally. Ameen.

 and now, the project had come to an end. so now, i need to be ready of losing nice friends. i know, once friends, forever friend. but what i mean here is that maybe we will not gonna meet frequently anymore, we are not gonna spend a lot of time together anymore.. and all things like that.. they both are from iraq, and they speak arabic.. i am so happy when i am there with them and when they are talking to each other, i feel like watching an arabic movie.. which is cool.. :) and atleast i now learn few words in arabic.. i know what they mean before i met them but at least now i know when to use! :)

and then, i remember a lecture about happiness..

life is not fair but Allah is ..

everyone has the capable of happiness and everyone has the capable of misery.

our soul naturally incline towards Allah.. trying to find peace and try to find happiness. everything finds comfort from it's source.so do we. when the soul is incline toward Allah, our body is too. just like when we affected emotionally,  our expressions, our thoughts and actions change too..

everything is the source of happiness and misery.
Rasulullah salallahualaihiwassalam once said,

" there are 4 sources of happiness.
1. a big home
2. good spouse
3. good neighbour
4. sweet ride.

there are 4 components of misery.
1. small house
2. bad spouse
3. bad neighbour
4. bad ride."        
( hadith )

see those 4 elements, they are just the same.. it is just how good or how bad it is..
but our happiness should not depend on those things.
the coolest thing is,, Rasulullah salallhualaihiwassalamm, they one who mention that hadis, does not have those 4 but only good spouse.
yet, He is still happy and yet he was the happiest person on the world.

the point here is, in any sitution, we should not attach our heart to those things. because, we ll give those up anyway at one time. those things might bring us happinest,, but after all, we ll lose them one day..just like what i am experiencing it now, i am not suppose to attach my heart to them. BUT ALLAH.. if we have Allah in our heart, we wont afraid of losing anything.
just like Allah said in the quran.

" the parable of those who take guardians besides Allah is as the parable of the spider that makes for itslef a house; and most surely the frailest of the houses is the spider's house did they but know?"

(al ankabut: 41)

remember the time when Rasulullah salallahualaihiwasallam lost his wife, his uncle, and most people are against him plus people are plotting to even kill him.. he lost almost everything..

when we convert our need to our want, Allah will give it to us,, realize the point that we we says that we need that so badly, meaning, we literally said that we cant live with out it, Allah wont give us.. because we are saying that 'i am so gonna die if i dont get this'.. hey,, remember,, we have Allah... so what makes us think that way?

but at the point when we convert how we feel about one thing into ' i just hope to get it, but if that is not for me, i ll be fine' and we get it!

Allah will give us! when we dont attach our heart on to a thing.

get the point? let's back tract. do you realize like how i do, how many incident in life that happens so 'accidently' that make us happy and how many incident when we are searching for something, and we need that so badly, however, and we are unable to find it. but when we dont need it, we can see those things like always....

everything is about heart. what we have in heart do matter. the happiness in in the heart. suppose to. but when if is not there, that is why we are searching it. unfortunately most people seeking pleasure and happiness wrongly.. note that,, only by having Allah that we can find happiness. because that is how we are created is. Allah is sufficient.

walahualam..

Independent of human

"Live however you want to.
But know that one day you re gonna die

Love whoever you want. But remember that one day you are going to be separated from him/her

Do whatever you want. But know that you will be granted exactly what you have done

Know that the nobility of a believer is standing up in qiam to Allah

His sense of dignity is being independent of people"

(Hadis hassan)

One of my favourite hadith. This hadith was an advice, the best angel gave to the best human being. From Jibril a.s to Muhammad s.a.w.

Sweet.. We can see 5 points in this hadith. Very applicable for every one. But let's just talk about the last one.. Independent of people..

As i grow older :P, i sense something bad about Muslims nowadays.. Our dependency to people is tooooo high!

" without you, no way for me to be where i am today"

Familiar? Yup.. A common appreciation line given to people.. It is nice to be nice to people. But sometimes we need to careful with our word for it can affect our belief. Without realizing it, we are actually depending ourselves on that person.

Just if that person is not there anymore, what is gonna happen to us? Lost! Weak, depressed. Look.. Dont depend so much to people. They are not gonna be with us forever.. ALLAH DOES.

and what about when difficulties happen in our days? We start to find people to talk to.. Sometimes, people are not interested to listen to you. Just if you Dont notice.

But the only reason he is listening to you is becoz he is finding someone to talk to as well. And what happens? Atmosphere of complaining.

We are complaining about the most merciful to the one without mercy. What is wrong us? We might not complaining why is this happening to me, why is this happen or such things.. But as we are talking and repeating about what we happened in our lives, what difficulties we are going through today, we are actually displease with what Allah has decided to us..

Lets look to what umar alkhattab said to a person who love to complain,

"You are not getting any good from your complaining except depressing someone who are not actually care about you or you are making some one who doesn't like you to pleased with your misfortune."

(umar al-khattab r.a)

Something that we might not realize is, most people is actually Dont even care about us. And now you are complaing to them. They are not interested of listening. Plus.. Dont we realize that they are also a human and they went through everyday like us too, but just with different story.

They might have bigger problem than we have and now we are giving them more burden? We are depressing them! Dont think, just becoz they Dont open their mouth telling you about their problem, meaning they have none.

Some people are trying to be strong facing their problems silently. And easily we went to them to complain about ours! Where is the justice? Something needed to looked upon.reflect.

I am not stopping us to talk about our life.. It us our nature to speak out our story.and i am suggesting you to speak to the best listener.Know that Allah is the only who having both willingness and ability to help us.

We might have people who have money to help us having the financial problem but can be he is not willing to help us.

And we might have our family who willing to help us but they have no ability to help for some reason..

Then, to whom can we rely? Only Allah. That is the beauty of Islam. Allah have no personal problem that He need to think about.. So, He is free to listen to us! HE IS WILLING TO HELP US. Cry out loud to him! Where ever you are, He is the nearest! Even just crying the heart, Allah hears you :')

ABILITY? No doubt that He is the most Powerful. He Has control over all things.

So, what is it stopping you from finding Allah? What is it? Please, Don't, just because we Don't see Him, don't ever think He is not there. Don't, just because nothing has changes even we had made doa for times, doesn't mean He is not listening to you.

Not yet doesn't mean never.

Don't lose hope in Allah and stop our Independence to humans. They can neither give benefit nor harm to us.. Powerless..

Stop complaining about Allah but complain to Allah. Find Allah.. Find time to be with Allah. Especially in tahajjud, sujud. Build back the relationship with Him that we had left for a very long time. Back to our fitrah, attach our hope onto the mercy of Allah. We need Him.

Find peace in remembrance of Allah our Creator. Our hearts need that so badly.