Maaf?

Apa itu maaf? 

Kerana, bagi aku, maaf itu perubahan, sekurang-kurangnya niat untuk melakukan perubahan.

Jangan bercakap tentang maaf dengan aku kalau tidak berniat langsung untuk berubah.

Maaf itu bukan sekadar perkataan. Ia seperti cinta.  Jangan berbicara tentang cinta dengan seseorang jika bukan datangnya dari hati.

Aku letih mendengar perkataan maaf yang sering digunakan sebagai pas unuk membuat kejahatan. Adilkah hidup ini kalau setiap kali seseorang buat kesalahan, dia meminta maaf, lalu dia lega dan boleh ulang lagi lain kali.

Aku tak sepenyabar itu. Aku punya prinsip dalam hidup. Aku tak kira jika tindakan aku mengasingkan diri ini menimbulkan rasa tidak puas hati pada pihak lain, aku tak peduli. Aku mengasingkan diri untuk kabaikan aku. Aku tak minta dipujuk tapi aku mengharap kesedaran yang membuahkan perubahan. Apabila aku mula ketahap mengasingkan diri, aku berani sebut bahawa itu bukan tahap rendah aku bersabar, itu bermaksud aku pernah pandang enteng perkara itu tapi sayang, ia berulang lagi. 

Aku tak suka paksa orang untuk berubah. Tapi jika dia tak mahu berubah, maaf, aku hanya boleh katakan bahawa aku cuma tidak layak menyesuaikan diri bersama mu. Aku tiada hak untuk marah orang hanya kerana aku tak selesa dengan apa yang mereka lakukan. Tapi, Aku tak mampu bersabar.

Ayat itu amat sukar untuk ku akui, kerana selama ini, itu lah yang aku cuba capai, sabar. Aku kecewa dengan diri sendiri sebab aku tak mampu bersabar, tapi aku rasa aku perlu akui itu supaya aku tak lari dari kenyataan.

Asingkan diri dan lari dari berbicara mungkin juga dianggap sebagai lari dari kenyataan, tapi bagi aku, itu yang terbaik. Aku tak kan dpat apa yang aku nak, tapi sekurangnya aku tak perlu hadapi apa yang aku tak nak. Kerana aku tiada kuasa untuk menghukum orang lain, biarlah aku menghukum diri aku sendiri. 

Mana ada orang berani kata, kunci mulut sepanjang hari itu mudah dan menyeronokkan, aku sendiri tak suka. Tapi, aku yakin, itulah yang terbaik, biarlah air mata turun sederas mana sekali pun, biar Allah sahaja yang tahu. Sungguh, aku sedang belajar dan berjuang. 

One thing i am keep working on is....

This is so hard, i mean, this is really hard. That something that i wanted to have since ever. I am admiring those could have this cause i am really struggling with it. 

I want to live a simple life, where i don't care what people want to talk about me. I want to be that someone who don't care about what people said, but care so much about what Allah's feel about it.

Sometimes, i do feel like i want to work as in a big profession where people could recognize me as a Muslim who can give the world a positive impact. But sometimes, i don't think it's a good idea. I am so ambitious but i do aware that life is so tricky. I can start my strategies with a fairly pure intention, but who knows what happen when i am at the top later on?

That is one of the thing i fear the most. Doing good things with bad intention. People will look at me as if i am an angel but God knows the real story. Naudzhubillah.

Yes, i am worrying too much simply because i know i need to decide. At the same time i need to remember that Allah will always have a better plan for me.

For the mean time, i really hope to be someone behind the scene,  i mean, the one who support the community but can only dream of recognition. I think, i need to try to do work for the sake of doing it. I mean, sincerely for Allah. Try not to be wanting to be  recognized.

I am dreaming a life where no one will look up at me, but i am still doing good things. I don't have to care so much about the need of recognition. Only people who knows me, know my struggle, i don't want to that person who always want to mention what he do for the world. I want to be the one who contribute silently. 

I always wanted the sincerity. That i guess, i need the most. I started to hate recognition because it makes me mention all what i have done, i don't want that, i want to be the one who knows what i am doing, although people might question it. I want to make Allah's standard, as my standard. Not anyone else's

I might end up working as a small business owner, even just the employee of the small business, but the one to call the community toward Allah without prejudice. The one to be the example through character. I want to give inspiration to people but in the way that together with my actions are with pure intention. 

Just with simple smile everyday, without discussing about how corrupt everyone else are, i want to give hope and light to people who don't really understand how beauty islam can be. How happy it is to be a Muslim, the submitting one.

I hate to be those who endlessly talk about how huge problem are, i want to be the one to that the step to solve the problem. Even if it will cause negative thoughts from the community, if i could at least take that brave and sincere step toward the betterment, why don't i just do it?

Not that i hate spending time to think about how problem should be solve, but i guess. After thinking wisely, at least something need to be done. 

More directly, i think, i want to get more involved with the people out there who actually knows about islam but unfortunately do not take islam as the way of life. For example, corrupted business people, young celebrity-obsessed people, the poor mistreated people living in city, dealing with drugs or alcohol not to forget, gays and lesbians.

To me, they need to be given hope. They need to understand that this world is temporary and what is it meant to be a Muslim. I want to inspire them indirectly, without they feel looked down. 

I want to initiate their curiosity toward their own religion. In the most wise and soft way. Remind them without judgment. Advice them without hatred. Talk to them without pride. Everything out of love and sincerity.

Wallahu'alam.

Impian yang sebenar

Dah lama aku tak de perasaan ni.

Aku ingat lagi, aku punya satu hobi yang agak pelik. Aku tak tahu lag orang lain macam mana. Mungkin mereka pun suka buat jugak, tapi aku tak tahu lah sebab aku tak nampak.

Aku suka bayangkan keadaan aku mati. Bila aku terjatuh atahu terbaring, aku suka tutup mata dan bayangkan andai betul itulah waktu aku hembuskan nafas yang terakhir. Aku akan mula imbas kembali apa yang aku baru shaja lakukan. Apa perkataan terakhir yang aku ucapkan kepada orang lain. Apa kesalahan aku yang aku tak sempat betulkan.

Aku tak tahu kenapa, tapi aku selalu yakin yang masa aku tak lama. Aku selalu fikir yang aku akan mati  pada usia muda. Aku tak pasti jika semua orang fikirkan benda yang sama. Aku tak pernah bincangkan benda ni dengan orang lain sebab aku tak rasa ramai orang terbuka dengan topik ni. Ramai orang tak suka bila kita sebut tentang kematian, walaupun ianya sangat pasti

Aku takut mati. Aku tak mampu nafikan itu, tapi mungkin sebab aku manusia biasa, apa yang aku buat, tak macam aku takut mati. Hari- hari aku cuba untuk buat satu benda baik yang baru, supaya jika aku betul mati hari ini, sekurang-kurangnya hari ini lebih baik daripada semalam.

Tapi hidup memang tak mudah. Walaupun itu apa yang aku impikan, sering saja kau terpesong. Aku buang masa, aku buat jahat, aku buat dosa dan sebagainya. Jahatnya aku. Astaghfirullah.

Atas sebab bayangan aku ini juga lah aku akan pastikan yang aku tak tidur waktu asar. Aku ada ingat tentang jika Allah kehendaki, Allah akan beri tanda buat hambanya selepas asar, pada 100 hari, 40 hari, 7 hari dan sehari sebelum kematian. Aku rasa, aku perlu sedar tanda-tanda itu supaya aku lebih bersedia.

Sebab perasaan ini juga yang membuatkan aku selalu impikan agar aku dapat berkahwin seawal mungkin. Sebab aku nak dapat kelebihan jadi isteri yang solehah, ibu yang baik. Aku nak ada anak yang akan doakan aku bila aku dah tak ada nanti. Sebab aku takut, takut sangat jika bula aku tak da nanti, tak ada siapa yang nak doakan aku, tak ada yang ingat aku lagi.

Setiap hari aku hidup. Seboleh-boleh aku nak bagi nasihat dan peringatan buat orang lain, supaya bila aku takda nanti, mereka akan jadi saksi yang aku adamguna hidup aku untuk menyeru mereka kepada Allah. Aku teringin sangat nak jadi seseorang yang dapat beri inspirasi kepada seseorang. Supaya kehadiran aku dalam hiduo mereka tak sia-sia. Aku sangat takut andai kematian aku adalah saat yang paling ditunggu-tunggu oleh semua orang. Allah, aku mohon tidak. 

Aku sedar aku insan yang banyak sangat dosa. Aku cuba untuk berubah tapi aku ini tak seperti orang lain yang hebat iman mereka. Aku selalu sangat lalai. Allah, ampunilah aku.

Atas sebab ni jugak aku tak suka berhutang. Aku tak kisah orang berhutang dengan aku. Tapi aku akan cuba sedaya upaya untuk tak berhutang. Agar hutang aku tak kan mengengar aku nanti.aku sangat takut itu,

Huh, Allah. Betul ke perasaan ini? Andai ditakdirkan aku memang takkan rasa hidup yang lama, aku sebenarnya sangat bersyukur. Kuranglah masa untuk aku bermaksiat. Tapi aku harap sangat untuk berbuat baik kepada kedua ibu bapa ku. Aku sayang sangat dekat mereka. Tapi aku belum kuat untuk tunjuk.maafkanlah aku. Allah, kasihilah mereka. Amiin

Kadang-kadang aku mula rasa penat dengan dunia ni. Dunia yang orang selalu lupa betaPa ia bersifat sementara. Aku pun selalu lupa, selalu bercita-cita untuk capai sesuatu di dunia, tapi lupa tentang akhirat. 

Aku sengaja tulis ini, supaya aku dapat baca lagi dan lagi. Tentang apa impian sebebar aku. Aku nak jumpa Allah dalam keadaan Allah tak murka kat aku. Allah, perkenankan lah. Aku tak nak jadi hamba yang tak guna! Sungguh aku tak nak. 

Allah, tunjuki jalan yang lurus dan matikan lah aku sebagai muslim. Akhiri hidupku dengan husnul khatimah. Amiin

Personality test- for fun

ENFJ STRENGTHS

• Tolerant - ENFJs are true team players, and they recognize that that means listening to other peoples' opinions, even when they contradict their own. They admit they don't have all the answers, and are often receptive to dissent, so long as it remains constructive.
• Reliable - The one thing that galls ENFJs the most is the idea of letting down a person or cause they believe in. If it's possible, ENFJs can always be counted on to see it through.
• Charismatic - Charm and popularity are qualities ENFJs have in spades. They instinctively know how to capture an audience, and pick up on mood and motivation in ways that allow them to communicate with reason, emotion, passion, restraint - whatever the situation calls for. Talented imitators, ENFJs are able to shift their tone and manner to reflect the needs of the audience, while still maintaining their own voice.
• Altruistic - Uniting these qualities is ENFJs' unyielding desire to do good in and for their communities, be it in their own home or the global stage. Warm and selfless, ENFJs genuinely believe that if they can just bring people together, they can do a world of good.
• Natural Leaders - More than seeking authority themselves, ENFJs often end up in leadership roles at the request of others, cheered on by the many admirers of their strong personality and positive vision.

ENFJ WEAKNESSES

• Overly Idealistic - People with the ENFJ personality type can be caught off guard as they find that, through circumstance or nature, or simple misunderstanding, people fight against them and defy the principles they've adopted, however well-intentioned they may be. They are more likely to feel pity for this opposition than anger, and can earn a reputation of naïveté.
• Too Selfless - ENFJs can bury themselves in their hopeful promises, feeling others' problems as their own and striving hard to meet their word. If they aren't careful, they can spread themselves too thin, and be left unable to help anyone.
• Too Sensitive - While receptive to criticism, seeing it as a tool for leading a better team, it's easy for ENFJs to take it a little too much to heart. Their sensitivity to others means that ENFJs sometimes feel problems that aren't their own and try to fix things they can't fix, worrying if they are doing enough.
• Fluctuating Self-Esteem - ENFJs define their self-esteem by whether they are able to live up to their ideals, and sometimes ask for criticism more out of insecurity than out of confidence, always wondering what they could do better. If they fail to meet a goal or to help someone they said they'd help, their self-confidence will undoubtedly plummet.
• Struggle to Make Tough Decisions - If caught between a rock and a hard place, ENFJs can be stricken with paralysis, imagining all the consequences of their actions, especially if those consequences are humanitarian.

2015

Alhamdulillah winter break now had come to its end. 

This last time we went to Kentucky , Washington  dc, West Virginia, and Pennsylvania

This time, we went to Philadelphia , Oakland, San francisco, Berkeley, Boston, Niagara Falls and Indianapolis. 

Not bad. Very exciting. Public transport mostly.  Alhamdulillah for everything.

Now let's talk about what i want to achieve in this new semester.

1. Take a very good care of my prayers

I mean, on time, early, properly, carefully, humbly, SINCERELY

2.  Istighfar, zikrullah

Increase my remeberance of Allah

3. Memorize more Surahs. If possible, finish juz 30

Important!

4. Recite more Quran

Improve my recitation, feel the message

5. Fast more

The voluntary ones, atleast 9 days this semester

6. More charitable

7. More productive

Dnt, campus life, Msa, class participation

8. Read more books. Atleast 

Half way khawathir quraniah

9. Get fit!

Get the ideal weight back. Stranger and healthier

10. Pointer, 3.7 and above

- because now = 3.68

11. Love my family!

Contact them more often

12. Mathurat, dhuha prayer, sunnah prayers!

Consistent

13. Work!

14. Save money

15. Be a very  good friend

- in the sight of Allah

16.smile, contribute more.

Portray good image of islam

May Allah ease.. Amiin 

Rupa

Aku lebih daripada hanya sekadar rupa. Dahulu, alu tak pernah sedar tentang kecantikan ku. Aku sangka kerana badanku berisi, aku tak cantik. Tapi cantik itu subjektif. Aku pernah berhadapan dengan ornag yang kata aku cantik, tapi aku nafikan. Aku tak rasa aku ini cantik mana pun. Tapi, apabila ramai yang mengulang-ulang ayat itu, aku mula terfikir. Jika itu apa yang mereka fikirkan, apa hak aku untuk nafikan? Lagipun, kecantikan yang ada pada aku bukannya aku cipta sendiri. Semuanya datang dari Allah. Bila orang puji, sebenarnya mereka memuji Allah. Kenapa aku nak nafikan?

Alhamdulillah, cantik itu kurniaan, tapi bagi aku, itu ujian. Buat mereka yang tak pernah berada ditempat aku, mungkin sukar untuk mereka fahami. Enakkah apabila orang tidak henti memandang kearah engkau memerhati apa sahaja yang engkau buat? Buat yang sukakan perhatian, mungkin. Tapi bukan aku. Buat siapa yang pernah kenal diri ini sejak sekolah rendah dan awal sekolah menengah, mereka pasti paham yang aku dulu tak seperti rupa aku yang sekarang. Aku lebih gemuk, gelap, pendek dan selekeh.

Alhamdulillah, Allah indahkan aku. Tapi itu benar-benar ujian kerana aku mula dapat kata-kata manis dari orang lain. Terutamanya yang lelaki, apabila mereka pandang aku tak lepas, dan mula suka aku, aku keliru and sangat benci jika mereka sukakan wajah fizikal aku dan bukan akhlak atau keistimewaanku. Kadang-kadang, aku risau jika bakal suamiku nanti adalah orang yang hanya melihat pada wajahku, 

Sebab itulah Allah suruh, apabila melihat cermin, baca doa agar diperindahkan akhlak sebagaimana indahnya wajah kita. Aku benar- benar berdoa agar wajah aku tidak akan mendatangkan fitnah ataupun musibah buat sesiapa. Kerana itu jugalah aku mahu kahwin, agar segala kerisauan ini, dihilangakan dan sekurangnya, aku punya pelindung.

Tapi, itu kisah jauh, aku ingin kahwin tapi belum bersedia. Alquran pun tak hafaz lagi. Masak pun masih tengah belajar lagi, menjahit pun baru asas. Akhlak, lagi lah perlukan pembaikian. Allah, permudahkan lah.

Sebab itulah, ada sebabnya kenapa aku belum temu jodoh. Baiki dulu diritu. Buat masa ini, cukuplah pelindung aku hanya Allah. Dia sebaik-baik pelindung. Semoga aku tabah dan tak mudah hanyut dalam nikmatNya. Allahumma Amiin

Charlie Hebdo, terrorism attack in Paris: Muslim response

Scrolling down the facebook, I suddenly saw posts about terrorist in france. Something about Charlie Hebdo and something about Said. I really wonder what it was. What i know is it was something about Muslim attack. I don't know if a Muslim was attacked or a Muslim was attacking something.

I remain clueless. It did bother me a lot but i just ignore it. Until that night, coming back from snow, sliding, i switch the news on tv. As expected, it was about the news i wanted to know. Now i know. It was about two Muslims attacking the Charlie Hebdo, the magazine office in Paris. 12 were shot, till death i guess. Not so sure about that. Really? Why? Apparently, it was because the two gunmen were shooting the cartoonists and journalists of the magazine company because they were insulting the prophet of Islam, Muhammad, in their magazines.

Yes. It is burning inside when people insulting our holy Prophet. But that protesting and killing and bombing is not the best thing we should do. I want to tell the world that Muslims are not terrorist. I want to tell the world that we are peaceful people. I want the world to know that we live not to harm anyone at all. Our religion teaches peace. Our holy Quran teaches peace and good thing. Killing the innocent is not at all from the Quran. That is the fact but the thing is, and the problem is, when Muslims are trying so hard to get the respect from the world, and we nearly get it, things like this happen.

The fact that the media used the term 'Muslim Terrorist' whenever a Muslim is attacking something really upset the rest Muslims of the world. The problem comes both ways. Ofcourse, first, why would a Muslim kills in the name of Islam but ignoring the islamic law? That is not islam. Good intention does not make the bad actions lawful! Who says a muslim shoud respond aggressively even when people were insulting our religion? The Quran says , in chapter 25 verse 63, 

And the servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth easily, and when the ignorant address them [harshly], they say [words of] peace,

SAY PEACE! I can cry out loud to beg Muslims of the world to remain peace and say peace even when they attack and challenge our anger! I know we had face these insults from the non-Muslims for such a long time. I know we need to do something. But please, killing is not what Islam teach us! Yes, Jihad! We need to to struggle, but don't forget to understand what Jihad really means! Islam ask us to struggle but not struggle to kill people and become a terrorist. Why not try to struggle within our own selves first. Struggle to control our anger. Think before act. Be patient.

Control our anger. Choose the best way to solve the problem. Don't cause more hatred. Because we are already hated by them. Show them love, because they really need that from us. Allah ask us to be kind to everyone. So please, be peaceful people, we are Muslims.

I know. We Muslims have not voice out enough to let everyone know that we too are not agreeing with the terrorists. Because that is not islam. Though they are Muslims, they are not potraying Islam. So the Media should stop associating Islam with terrorism. I could not deny that yes there are terrorism acts made by Muslims but don't judge. There are more noble acts made by Muslims that not covered by the Media. They need to know that as well. Just because the noble acts were not covered by the Media, that does not mean it does not exist. 

The thing is, people only focus on negative thing about Muslim but forget to understand what Islam really teach. Please, if you want to know about islam, ask a practicing Muslim. don't just assume. Or read the Quran, the authentic translation of the Quran. 

Or ask me . I am more than ready to answer with my humble knowledge and experience.

I want to be me. Not them

Sometimes, i feel glad that Allah took everyone away from me. It is not that i dont love them while I actually love them so much. Sometimes in live, we need friends to remember nd us of Allah. But sometimes, at least to me, it is always better to be alone than spending so much time talking nonsence. 

I don't blame them. It is up to them to do what they want. But to express how i feel, i really feel very dissapointed. I am dissapointed that i don't play my role as a good friend. I wanted to remind them that life is more than just about books and movies. No, i am not trying to play smart here. I just worried that if i or they die now, what is the last thing we were talking about.

I am trying to change for good. But obviously no one says changes are easy. It just need patience! Patience is someting that i need to develop. To be frank, very sadly, i would say, my life 5 months earlier is way better than my life today. I could not deny that. I wanted to stand up again, i mean, i want to be more serious about life. Because i really fear death. 

I know by fact that death could come anytime. But the sad reality is, i am not getting any better. Worse, i am getting worse! Astaghfirullah.

I wanted someone to make the climb with me. Unfortunately, that someone who before this understand me, no longer care about this. She just act like she is enjoying doing what she had left before! People said, returning to jahiliyah. I am not judging but that is just what i feel. I now have no external support. 

But you know what, i am very glad that i atleast notice this. At least i am aware of why things happen and why Allah put me alone now. For the time being, I don't need someone to tell me what to do.

I know Allah had that list already. They are now going further from me. Yup, of course i am upset. But that something I couldn't control. Why think so much about them.

What i should think now is, about my ownself first. I do care about them, but i care about my ownself first. I am not letting them inluencing me to be my bad old me. That is not wherei want to go.

I wantto go to Jannah. Allahumma Amiin. I love my friemds too. May Allah guide us all. I just had enough wasting my time on stupid stuff that i dont want to care and focus on what is more important.

Sorry for not joining your conversation.

Pendapat kita?

Aku manusia biasa.

Aku bukan yang mahu kan perhatian atau yang mahukan wang ringgit

Aku tak menunggu orang duduk dikelilingku mendengar segala cerita dan curahan hatiku

Aku tak menunggu orang belikan hadiah diharijadiku

Aku tak minta orang luahkan kasih sayangnya secara verbal kepadaku.

Aku hanya minta hormat

Sekurangnya, hormat lah aku sebagai manusia yang punya perasaan

Ye aku tegas. Kekadang orang akan rasa seolah aku suka mengarah.

Malangnya, apabila aku tidak memberi pendapat, orang kata aku tak membantu

Aku keliru. Ye, aku tahu apa yang aku mahukan.

Cuma biasanya, aku cuba menjadi manusia yang hidup berkomuniti.

Yang mahu berkomunikasi dan melontarkan pendapat

Aku keliru

Benar,

Siapa kata hidup ini mudah.

Seingat aku, tidak pernah aku telingai itu.

Hidup ini memang payah, sebab hakikatnya, ianya adalah hukuman buat Adam A.S

Cuma kita yang suka-suka didunia ini seolah mati itu tiada

Aku keliru.

Siapa yang aku perlu jadi?

Aku kekadang lelah menjadi ketua yang tak dihormati 

Dan juga penat menjadi pengikut yang sering dimarahi.

Aku sangka, apabila pendapat dilontarkan, ia akan menjadi satu cadangan yand boleh diperdebatkan

Rupanya, definisi pendapat mereka lain.

Pendapat itu bagi mereka, arahan yang ditunggu masanyanutk dikritik diakhir nanti

Apabila semuanya sudah pun terjadi

Mereka seolang menunggu masanya untuk membuktikan bahawa 'pendapat' aku salah

Malang, sedang diawalnya pendapat mereka diharapkan, mereka seolah tiada pendapat

Aku keliru. Inikah yang dinamakan akhir zaman?

Mereka takut pendapat mereka salah, maka mereka simpan pendapat

Untuk buktikan yang mereka kononnya betul diawalnya!

Jika betul, mengapa tak di lontarkan pada awalnya lagi?

Mungkin kerana ini dunia.

Hak dan batil memang tak kan di jelaskan

Sebab itu aku malas berkata.

Aku hanya ingin menulis.

Menulis, untuk timbulkan pertanyaan didalam diri,

Untuk membuktikan mengapa hidup ini sementara

Aku percaya Allah

Dengan izinnya, aku akan dapat mencari ketenangan dan mecari posisi diri ini

Mungkin juga ini adalah petanda lagi.

Untuk membuka hati ini untuk tidak pedulikan apa mereka kata

Lihat mereka kecil sahaja

Aku tak lemah untuk sempitkan hidup aku dengan kata-kata mereka

Gelak sindir merekat itu sampah.

Tak perluku kutip untuk telan

Jika benar, aku pintar

Hanya Allah tempatku mengadu

Conflict resolution-imam tahrir anwar

Wahai orang-orang yang beriman! Jika datang kepada kamu seorang fasik membawa sesuatu berita, maka selidikilah (untuk menentukan) kebenarannya, supaya kamu tidak menimpakan sesuatu kaum dengan perkara yang tidak diingini - dengan sebab kejahilan kamu (mengenainya) - sehingga menjadikan kamu menyesali apa yang kamu telah lakukan.

[Quran 49:6]

Investigate news that it is actually the truth

Dont judge, don't create an opinion in your mind until you hear both sides of the story

During the time of prophet, jews were comfortable making prophet as the judge. Because they knew prophet will do justice and listen to them

When you see two group were in conflict, resolve them

Now we don't respect our elder anymore.

Before, people listen to both side 

But now, it is more about bias and gossip

Seek for information

Never direct a child in anger. Manage your anger first

You have to be cool. Listen!

Keep going if you can be just and fair

Or else, just move on

Don't abuse people we don't know.

Don't lose humanity.

Dont abuse the, verbally, emotionally

Keep the respect

Have the ability to forgive

But the person need to know about the change the need to do to get the forgiveness

Don't repeat the past!

Listen more than you talk!

Find the right person to get married

Dont plan on the wedding more than the plan of the future marriage!

Protect your family.

Parents need to get good friends so that your kids will get good friends as well.

Make a list

What you like about another person

Acknowledge that you have made a mistake

Don't get offended when people point out your mistake

Spend time with our children

Show a good example

Du'a 

- begin with praise

Kisah nabi yusuf

Father- sun- when rise, everyone happy, give life, not fear

Mother- moon, give beauty, baiti jannati. Home like jannah, sun is still there

Child- star

No!: neither me or your mum

Dont tell your spouse on how to improve their relationship between your spouse and their family. They know better

Compassion n mercy to in-law

Women needs  attention, appreciation, affection 

Men wants respect

Don't compare your spouse with anybody else

All the prophets hAve problem with their family members

Solve it now.

Don't carry over.. Because it Will cause revenge

Money is the source of happiness? Or stress?

Dealing with stress and depression

Muktamar SF 2014

 We are going so fast but we don't even know where are we going.

Technology is a good and beautiful thing

But chaos is manufactured in the world as well

We are no more a slave to Allah. We are slave to our job, business, not time to see our family

Org miskin lg content, org yang takde tv, yg kais pagi makan pagi, kais petang makan petang lagi content dri org yg ada kereta, rumah besar n bla bla bla.

The problem is, we are the victim of what is called debt. We use credit card. We use money we don't have for the things we couldn't afford and actually don't need

Then we happen to be stressed out. Thinking about money, how to pay the bills, the monthly payments for the house the credit card, insurance and everything else.

The husband started to depressed but dont want to talk to his wife. Now wifw is nagging about her husband and husbansds are nagging about his wife.

What a chaos world.. Now,, drug,  pills, alchohol, just more problems.

Happy? Still not.

Sad, go to the mall, happy, go to the mall,. The consume culture,

We forget that this world is not everlasting, the jannah is everlasting

This life is temporary. The life of here after is permanent.

 It is jannah that we are striving toward. The prophet of Allah were suffering in this striving. They didnt give up though.. They keep continue.

Debt free muslims. 

- dont buy what we don't need.

Halal rizk, be content with your rizk, 

Financial independence. 

Mortgages, payments, that are killing us, killing human beings

If i lose my job tomorrow, its not going anywhere

Learn to live a simple life.

And material will never bring you happiness, eternal happiness

1. Du'a- begin by asking Allah for happiness, contentment,

Book: accepted whisper. 

Dua from the quran. Sometimes we dont even know what to ask allah for.

That's why we can learn from the dua from the quran on what we should ask

What is important

- follow with consistency in deeds. It is a process.

2. Do your part. 

Dont get involve in things that will bring you to stress

We cant control the chaos in the other part of the world. But we can control the the chaos in our home, in our town

3. Be a human being

Have care and concern to other human being, not just muslims.

Dont create chaos with non muslims

Get connected

4. Leave this life five times a day

- make the prayer meaningful.

Build your life around the prayer, not your prayer around your life

- mean what you recite. Do it with heart

5. Patient

Patient yet continue to strive

Make life better. Strive toward that

Come on, put faith that Allah is powerful to make it happen

Dont stress out

We worship Allah because we need him, not because he need us. 

Believe in the day of judgement. 

Know that life is temporary. We will escape eternally

Every struggle we went through 

Go visit the janazah

Remember that this hardship will end and the entertainment will end as well

The dhikir of Allah, dont forget.

Very inportant

Put your trust in Allah

Begin with remeberance of Allah

And end with the remembrance of Allah

Be thankful of Allah

Focus on what we have not that what we do not have. 

Dont get in to keeping us with the jones

Live your own life

Friends are the one we count on

Islam says Contribute!

Zahra n shamsi ali

Muktamar SF 2014

We need to be comfortable in explaining about our faith

- learn about our faith

- they don't know, let them know.

Be ambassadors of our faith

- be friendly! It is so important to change the perception

Face outward. 

Homeless, local issues

Care more than just about muslim issue

Join other conference also

Islam is about contribution

Give, spend, help, provide.

Giving is better than accepting

The person who don't have anything cannot give

Self learning, self improvement

Be updated!

Because our world is changing and interconnected- islam is not

The jews and christian will not please with you until you leave your religion

Human relationship from Quran perspective- alhujurat- ya ayyuhannass

Not about religion. 

Islam is more than just ritual practice.

What kind of contribution?

1) islam

Its about learning

Learn about Allah

Social

1) Racism- learn to live in diversity

2) woman empowerment

3) 

When they forget Allah, allah will make them forget themselves

That is obviously the beginning all the problems

Cultivating civilization- the prophet's way

Dr. Mazlee Malik (muktamar SF20014)

More serious more islamic?

More haram, more islamic?

Search for the beauty! It is there.

See beyond the halal and haram.

Islam is not only about spiritual experience.

Tariq ramadan.journey and meaning

More than just legalistic.. We missed the art and beauty,

Get its meaning!

Dehyah al kalbi- wise and thoughtful and handsome

First ambassador of islam, 

Hadis klu bermusafir

1. Bertaqwalah kod Allah dimana sahaja kita berada.

2. Org buat buruk, kita buat baik

3. Berakhlak baik

4. Tinggalkan kesan.

Observe the syumul of islam.

 Waktu org bawak jenazah yahudi, rasulullah bangun.

Org tanya, itu yahudi. Kenapa?

Rasulullah: itu nyawa jugak. 

Humanistic dimension of islam

 Mercy beyond justice

This is real islam

Human right activism

Be humane

Agent of mercy

Mercy to the universe

Respect and admire.

Tafzir- spend buat benda haram

Israf- spend buat benda harus secara berlebihan

Segregate 

5:6

Wuduk

Pembersihan.air.

Revolution for the bedouin 

Turn the arab people into a civilized nation

Sbb nk kena guna air, yg bersih, 

Changed the life of the arab... Invent technology 

Hadis doa, dtg malaikat menyerupai manusia yg sangat kemas, org tanya dr mana klu bukan madinah : 

Madinah org yg sangat kemas, itu point dia. Org muslim mandi. 

Mozarab : trending. Style org islam jd ikutan.

Jews admit it that the most remarkable time of all was the time under golden age of islam. Especially under saladin

Music tak haram

Ma'azir- yg melalaikan, ttg perempuan, ttg aurat

Ismail faruqi

Al-Musica- sound engineering, organization of sound

Quran wahyu luar

Akal wahyu didalam- reflect n fikir- kluarkan kemanusiaan itu. 

Al-hindi- al farabi- ibn sina : rational- music therapy. 

Pythagoras: music berasal drpd mathematic. 

Search the best in you because the world need it. Show it in the best and honorable way. That is what islam all about. Its the guide to discover the best in you. An us is to impact The world and brings them all together to know the meaning of life. To worship Allah. 

Spread the message of islam wisely!