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Friday, January 2, 2015

Conflict resolution-imam tahrir anwar


Wahai orang-orang yang beriman! Jika datang kepada kamu seorang fasik membawa sesuatu berita, maka selidikilah (untuk menentukan) kebenarannya, supaya kamu tidak menimpakan sesuatu kaum dengan perkara yang tidak diingini - dengan sebab kejahilan kamu (mengenainya) - sehingga menjadikan kamu menyesali apa yang kamu telah lakukan.

[Quran 49:6]

Investigate news that it is actually the truth
Dont judge, don't create an opinion in your mind until you hear both sides of the story
During the time of prophet, jews were comfortable making prophet as the judge. Because they knew prophet will do justice and listen to them
When you see two group were in conflict, resolve them

Now we don't respect our elder anymore.
Before, people listen to both side 
But now, it is more about bias and gossip

Seek for information

Never direct a child in anger. Manage your anger first
You have to be cool. Listen!
Keep going if you can be just and fair
Or else, just move on

Don't abuse people we don't know.
Don't lose humanity.
Dont abuse the, verbally, emotionally
Keep the respect

Have the ability to forgive
But the person need to know about the change the need to do to get the forgiveness

Don't repeat the past!
Listen more than you talk!

Find the right person to get married
Dont plan on the wedding more than the plan of the future marriage!

Protect your family.
Parents need to get good friends so that your kids will get good friends as well.

Make a list
What you like about another person
Acknowledge that you have made a mistake
Don't get offended when people point out your mistake
Spend time with our children
Show a good example

Du'a 
- begin with praise

Kisah nabi yusuf
Father- sun- when rise, everyone happy, give life, not fear
Mother- moon, give beauty, baiti jannati. Home like jannah, sun is still there
Child- star


No!: neither me or your mum
Dont tell your spouse on how to improve their relationship between your spouse and their family. They know better

Compassion n mercy to in-law
Women needs  attention, appreciation, affection 
Men wants respect

Don't compare your spouse with anybody else

All the prophets hAve problem with their family members

Solve it now.
Don't carry over.. Because it Will cause revenge












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