People once said, "travel alone if you want to find yourself. But if you want to create memories, go in group":)
Travelling in group has its own pros and cons. Sometimes, if you have good companies, your trip will be a blast, regardless how bad the place you visit is. Good companies helped you go through ups and downs. When you are weak, you sure have someone else to keep you going.
In group, it can be so much fun and at the same time, it can be extremely stressful. That is why you will need to choose with whom you are going to be travelling with. Choose wisely the people you will spend most of your time with, because once you decide, there is no turning back. I purposely put the words to make it terrifying. Because it was to me. Me being an introvert, I do have limit to myself which after every while, I need a space for myself to think and to reflect in things. I need time to talk to myself. But when I decide to travel in group, it is almost constantly, I need to be with people. When you are so close with someone, you will probably find the smallest thing in their habit could annoy you. And for sure, there are littles things about you annoy others as well. Those are common things when travelling, especially when you started to discover things you never knew. The key is, when you get irritated, remember, someone else must be hating you right now, too! So, do not blame. It is all small stuff anyway. Do not waste too much energy in that, just enjoy your trip.
Besides, make sure you know how to communicate, because this can be the biggest problem and cause so much tension. Whether you’re on a trip with your best friend or a new friend this is important. You just need to tell to everyone at the beginning and if possible, repeat occasionally, that if anything at all is bothering anyone on the trip, just be open and speak out. I really learned a lot from this. It is not that I was uncomfortable during this trip but it is just as a normal human being, everyone just has their own opinion and way at doing things. So, when there is clash, it can be very bothering. So, learn how to communicate things out!
Speaking about communication, keep in mind that your friends aren’t mind readers. For that reason, you yourself need to know what make you behave in such ways. If you are grumpy, you need to know why, then let them know. Some people will be in their worst mood if they are hungry. Some will be when they are tired and some will be when they disagree with somethings. Speak your mind. Yes you will always hope someone could be very understanding enough to read your feelings but sometimes things aren’t the way we wanted it to be. So, be considerate. Everyone is tired, you might be exhausted but if you do not speak up, they might not take a break.
Also, regarding that, if someone demand for something when you are in a rush, do not be mad. Yes, you might have something on your mind to achieve in your time frame. Especially they are your travelling partner, consider them as people with feelings too. You might think you are the most responsible people on your small group but when travelling, it is not being right as the primary purpose. It is to make sure everyone is happy and enjoy the trip. As long as it will not cost you a whole lot, consider their request for a break even although you know we need to be there in 5 minutes. Because it is not your trip alone, it is their trip as well. Not to forget, ask yourself,: does everyone want to do all the same things. Travelling as you know has so many purpose and interest. So, you can not force everyone do everything you want to do. Remember, it is okay if we don’t do everything together, but if it is a group activity, make sure everyone will be enjoying it.
Even though I have made travelling in group seem so difficult, trust me there are a lot of wonderful things you will discover in group. When travelling, you get the opportunity to meet different people from different places. Travelling and interacting with a variety of people can help build or improve social skills with very little effort. Not only does travelling improve communication skills, it can actually boost self-confidence, since ideas and opinions are able to be more clearly expressed, shared and understood. So, go ahead and explore the world with fantastic people, trust me your character might change, hopefully positively.
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